The Pain

From: http://www.seansabourin.com/pain/

You know that day where nothing makes sense? Or everything that does make sense is painful? You stand in the middle of your living-room or your backyard and you ask yourself: “what's the point?” You've done everything right, gone by the rule, very carefully... But no matter what you did, it was not enough... The universe just decided to crush you. 

The loss of a family member, the realization that you hate your career, your divorce, an accident, discrimination toward you, an incurable disease... All these troubles are out there, waiting to find a new victim to latch on. And bang! They got you. How do you get over the pain they bring along?

We all grief differently: some decide to just drink out their problems, some pray, some break things around them, some exercise over and over, some get addicted to drugs, some talk to a friend, some cry and cry and cry, some see a therapist. The truth is, no matter what you do, the pain never really goes away. And that’s what makes it hard. All you want to do is just let go for a few seconds… days… years...

They say “time heals all wounds”.  Oh yeah? Well, how long is time? Do we just sit back and wait until the day we forget all our pain… What happens when a new pain comes along then? Let’s face it, time does NOT heal anything… It just makes you think about your problems more and more. It is what you do with that time, or how you deal with your loss that may heal your wound. Thus, the saying should not be “Time heals all wounds” but rather “What you do with time may heal your wounds”

They also say: “good things happen to good people” Whoever came out with this saying is either the luckiest person on earth (because only good things happened to him/her) or is completely delusional. Jesus was a good person, Martin Luther King was a good person, Gandhi was a good person… Do we really think that good things happened to them? They suffered hate and discrimination; and in the end were all killed. No good happened to them. What happened is that other people benefited from their sufferings,. Thus, the saying should not be “Good things happen to good people” but rather “Good things happen thanks to good people”.

That’s why it is important to remember that despite all our pain and problem, someone out there, might benefit from them. Your mom died from cancer? Then maybe her doctor is going to do everything he can to work toward a cure so it doesn’t happen again. Your marriage ended in a divorce? Maybe now you’ll have the opportunity to do whatever you wanted and have always hoped for. You work hard and are succesful, but your boss keeps treating you like a worthless employee? She might be going through some difficult path in her life, so she needs to let it out on someone… She chose you unfortunately. But maybe, thanks to you, she will be fine again; and you will have learned to overcome that unfairness, and thus be a stronger person.

From: http://naikrukma.blogspot.ca/

It is of course difficult to see the silver lining when life gives you lemons… But if you use your time wisely  (“What you do with time may heal your wounds”), and if you try hard enough to look at the little bright side that comes (“Good things happen thanks to good people”), then you might be surprised of how you can overcome anything.